2/25/22
The fact that you are drawn in and compelled to be with others in this kind of work with as much compassion as you bring, is an incredible gift you offer. Your presence truly is the present. That is why you must not leave yourself out of the equation. What I mean is this:
“What makes you have any less compassion for your own needs?” Why would you place your own needs any lower in priority than another’s? We are of no service to others, in the end, if we leave ourselves out.
Do not leave yourself out of the equation.
Even though you are capable of great things and others look to you for help, you can’t give into the tendency to try to be wonder woman or super man (for you male caregivers out there). It’s commendable to want to be a hero, but what makes you think you can be a hero to everyone else and forget yourself? You need yourself just as much if you are going to be entering a difficult and charged and challenging situation. It wouldn’t require a caregiver if it wasn’t difficult. And yes, you’re the one for the job because you have the grace of an angel with compassion for others that not everyone is equipped with. Yes, this makes you most qualified for the job. But what about your own inner child & sensitive parts who are witnessing emotional turmoil just by being around others’ emotional turmoil?
Take care of you, boo. First and foremost. Do you, boo. What does this look like? Only you know. Only you truly know you and what you need. And if you’ve never stopped to think about what would be taking care of yourself, that’s a problem. You know. It’s different for us all. It may mean driving to the home 15 minutes early. Parking around the corner where your car is out of sight and writing some intention for strength, courage, ease, and flow as you enter a difficult situation. Taking moments for yourself, to speak with your god, your higher self, whatever you believe in that is bigger than yourself. Connect in. Love yourself up inside there – first. You’re the only one that can love you completely and as beautifully and quite as fully. Be creative. Because in the end, you’re the one who will love you the most.